Face Your Fear, Own Your Life

on August 28, 2023

Set Yourself Free

I often counsel my students and mentees that all bad decisions are made for one of two reasons—fear or greed. For most people I know, greed is rarely the culprit unless temptation is in the form of gambling or investing. The real enemy if fear.   Fear of submitting a resume and looking stupid. Fear of doing a job interview and not having the “right” answer. Fear of rejection. Fear of being alone. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of standing up to a loved one lest they walk out. Fear of speaking up and being embarrassed. Fear of losing face. Fear of being exposed. Fear of shame. Fear of losing your job. Fear of losing your spouse. Fear…Read More

The Confidence Code

on September 26, 2022

Which is Better - Competence or Confidence?

I’m currently reading The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, and it’s everything girls, women and parents need to know about understanding confidence. The bottom line: It’s not enough to be talented. You have to be confident. Recent studies have shown evidence that confidence is actually more important than competence when earning social status. In the work or school environment that might mean you’ll be more admired, listened to, and influential for being confident—even if you’re not the sharpest tool in the shed. The fact is that a lot of confident people are confident they can learn anything they need to know. Confidence is important because it ignites action. It is optimism and self-assurance in yourself that you…Read More