Forgiveness Sets You Free

on December 1, 2021

Forgiving Before Thanksgiving

Forgiving before Thanksgiving The holiday season is upon us and we will soon be sharing more time with loved ones. And there will also be the people who makes us crazy. Sometimes they are one and the same. There’s a saying, “Your parents know how to press all your buttons because they’re the ones who installed them.” Truth! This is where forgiveness comes in. If you truly want love, good cheer and joy to flow through you and around you this season, then make sure there isn’t anything inside you that is blocking it. It might mean forgiving people you see regularly or someone who is not in your life that you still resent or blame. Boundaries and communication are… Continue Reading

Fear is a Bully

on October 7, 2021

Don't Be Bullied!

Fear is a Bully Sometimes we don’t recognize that nagging voice in our heads until after an opportunity has passed. And then we kick ourselves for falling for the bully that taunts us relentlessly and never gets tired! Fear is a Bully. And bullies show up saying a lot of useless things. That’s a bad idea. You’ll look stupid. You’ll be embarrassed. It’s never been done before. You’re biting off too much. You’re going to fail. You’re not going to succeed. You’re going to waste your time. You’re going to waste someone else’s time. What makes you think you can do it? And on… Right? Just stop imagining things that don’t exist. Focus on now. And know that an idea,… Continue Reading

6 Tips for a Successful Summer Internship

on May 4, 2021

Six Tips for College Students to Excel!

Your first summer internship? Feeling nervous? Not sure what to expect? Hoping you like it? Hoping you don’t mess up? Hoping people like you? Hoping you make some good connections? Try not to worry too much. All the other interns feel the same way. And all their leaders know you have a lot to learn and hopefully won’t be throwing you in to sink or swim without a little orientation as to the temperature of the water. But here’s a few tips to help you out. Enthusiasm and a good attitude go a long way! Repeat that all day long. A smile will usually get a smile. Be interested in all the opportunities to learn around you. Be comfortable asking… Continue Reading

How Are You Growing Yourself?

on April 2, 2021

The People Around You, Lower You or Lift You

Why do we care what others think? Well, yes, people do have the power to bully, shame, and kick us out of the “in” crowd. But does that matter? If you have to compromise who you are, maybe the “in” crowd is actually the “out” crowd. Stay true to your integrity no matter what. As some wise person said, at the end of the day, you’re the only one who has to live with yourself. Make that person the best possible you, not an imitation or reaction to someone else. Working on yourself is never wasted. When things are going well, when things are going wrong, when you are down, when you are up, when you are single, when you… Continue Reading

A Month of Self-Giving

on February 2, 2021

28 Ways to Fill Yourself with Love!

Write down 28 things about yourself that you are grateful for—just about you and what’s going on in your life right now. “I am grateful for my patience…that I made someone laugh today…that I can smile at strangers…that I’m healthy…smart…” Meditate ten minutes a day, imaging sunshine filling every part of your being and shooting outward. Whatever your version of God or universal goodness, ask to be filled with so much love that it pushes all negative thoughts from your mind. Do this every morning. Drink half your weight in water every day this month. It will change your energy and alertness if you haven’t been doing this. Make it special with some lemon, cucumber or a favorite infusion. Get… Continue Reading

How To Be Happy By Doing This One Thing

on January 28, 2020

True Joy and Happiness is Internal

One of the things you find with age, is that your dreams achieved don’t always satisfy you in the way that you imagined they would. In fact, a lot of people around me seem to be suffering from a mid-decade malaise whether they are in their 20s 30s 40s 50s.  It doesn’t seem to matter. Writers call this the midway slump. It simply happens in the middle—no matter what your circumstances. And in books the writer often realizes, it’s because a character is not yet deep enough or connected/in conflict enough with other characters and nothing is driving the external plot. But real life can’t be written away. It requires action. Ultimately, happiness, joy and contentment cannot be satisfied by… Continue Reading

12 Leadership Tips from the Queen of Quality

on July 18, 2019

From A Conversation With Martha Stewart

I’m not sure Martha Stewart would want me to call her the Queen of Quality, but “quality” is certainly signature to her brand, and I dub her that with all due respect for an amazing career which among other things, launched the “lifestyle” industry and continues to innovate it. In June, I was in Las Vegas, doing research at SHRM19—The largest convention for human resource leaders in the world, put on by the Society for Human Resources Management. There were over twenty thousand people, and I personally met many amazing and insightful people. One of the first morning keynotes was a conversation with Martha Stewart who was interviewed by the SHRM President and CEO, Johnny C. Taylor, Jr. Martha looked… Continue Reading

Face Your Fear, Own Your Life

on June 4, 2019

Set Yourself Free

I often counsel my students and mentees that all bad decisions are made for one of two reasons—fear or greed. For most people I know, greed is rarely the culprit unless temptation is in the form of gambling or investing. The real enemy if fear.   Fear of submitting a resume and looking stupid. Fear of doing a job interview and not having the “right” answer. Fear of rejection. Fear of being alone. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of standing up to a loved one lest they walk out. Fear of speaking up and being embarrassed. Fear of losing face. Fear of being exposed. Fear of shame. Fear of losing your job. Fear of losing your spouse. Fear… Continue Reading

“Just Be Yourself” a.k.a. Worst. Advice. Ever.

on July 22, 2018

Discover the Teen Stress That You Just Made Worse

Until you’ve aged a little and accomplished some awesome things, and come to a place where you know you are fierce and can kill it in any situation, “being yourself” is really stressful. Especially if you want to be a lot more than “yourself.” As a teen, I never wanted to be myself. I wanted to be the “self” that fit in and was liked for being myself. If I was actually myself, I would have never engaged in conversation, or done extra curricular activities, or been responsible with my chores. I only did those things to appear normal, to have the hope of being a better ‘self’ someday, and so that my parents would get off my back and… Continue Reading

The ONE Thing That Works, No Matter What Just Happened

on June 18, 2018

When You've Lost Your Mojo - 8 Tips for Teens, Twenties and Beyond

Okay, aside from prayer, there is one thing you can always do to improve your life immediately no matter what is going on—and especially when something hard is going on. You might have lost a job, lost a friend, or lost your confidence, but not matter what trauma strikes, investing in yourself is never wasted time or money. And it pays dividends forever after. If you’re stuck and not sure what investing in yourself looks like, here are some ideas and most of them are free. 1 – Focus on your health. More sleep, long walks, lots of water. Do this every day and you’ll be ten steps ahead of most people.  When you are sick, it really does feel… Continue Reading