Dreams and Schemes for a Legendary Life

The Power of Gentleness in Everyday Life

on October 2, 2016

Discovering the Power of Gentleness is a Gift.

I was blessed to have dinner with both my parents this week for my father’s birthday. As we enjoyed food and wine and each other’s company, I was compelled to reach over and hold my dad’s hand in both of mine. We smiled at each other, said a few things, and had a moment. But what I felt was a flood of gratitude that we reached this moment in our relationship where we could express love and appreciation rather than what might have become the frustration and contempt I see in many relationships that are long in history. He was not always an easy dad. And I was far from an easy daughter. We challenged each other a lot—starting when I was… Continue Reading

Dealing with Disappointment: How to Handle Being Replaced or Overlooked

on September 24, 2016

Disappointments Are Pivotal Moments

There are always going to be times in our lives when we lose a role on a team, a part in a play, or are replaced by new fresh blood—either at school, work, or at home. This is never an easy experience. It is an experience that can make you feel too old, too young, too inexperienced, inadequate, threatened, embarrassed, and even fearful of becoming irrelevant (and therefore you will lose your job, your partner will dump you, your children will abandon you, and you’ll become homeless and die alone). Yes, there are some of us who take it all the way to the bitter end. I don’t wish this on anyone. All those emotions are uncomfortable. And I know… Continue Reading

How to Fight for Your Dreams

on September 17, 2016

Fight For Your Dreams! There are so many great quotes from Robert Kennedy about the power of dreams, and following your dreams, but he is also the one who said, “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Which is my note for today. It’s easy to say, dream big or go home. Dreaming is the easy part. It’s the doing that’s the scary part. Achieving dreams takes action—sometimes daring action. But there are also practical steps you can take to ensure your goals get a little closer within reach. 1-Knowledge: Become an expert on your dreams. Figure out what you need to know. What is your subject? What is required? What’s going on in the field… Continue Reading

Authentic Encouragement

on September 11, 2016

How to help a friend, colleague or family member through a rough spot.

Encouragement is a basic human need. It was late in my life when I really learned the importance and the power of encouragement. Once it struck, it struck deep. I began to understand this basic human need, I’ve gotten a little better at it. I’ve also learned it takes time and practice as well as insight and sincerity to really get it right. It’s easy to be rah-rah. That’s the quick pass at encouragement when you are running around to get stuff done and don’t actually have time to look the person in the face and see what’s up. Or the quick, ‘you can do it’, without recognizing what it really takes for the person to do it. Don’t get… Continue Reading

Leading The Way When There Is No Leadership

on September 2, 2016

Phew! Take a breath. I just picked a really big topic for what was meant to be a short blog! The Vacuum of Leadership What do you do when you are in a job where there is a vacuum of leadership? When your leaders are so MIA, that people don’t even show up for work and no one notices. When the shop has not been minded for so long that the shelves are empty and even the employees are starving! This is what I’m going to talk about in my first blog after my book writing absence. Take another deep breath. All right let’s get into this. Identify immediately: Is this a transitional change or just how things are done?… Continue Reading

Gifts for Writers & Readers

on December 24, 2015

12 Days of Pre-Christmas: Gift Twelve For Your Writer Friend

There’s so much you can give to a writer friend that shows you were thinking of them, and that you support their endeavors. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of seeing that special trinket and including a note that says, “Thought of you.” Here are some to give you just a few ideas of what might end up on a writer’s shelf. The cost can be anything from $2.99 to $40.00. You can find a lot of fun things in that range. Here are a few. Trinkets: Don’t Forget To Enter My Contest! One person will win a $100 USD Amazon Gift Card to replenish their wallet after the holidays! Subscribe to my mailing list here, and follow me on Twitter…. Continue Reading

Gifts for Writers & Readers: 11th Day of Pre-Christmas

on December 23, 2015

12 Days of Pre-Christmas: Gift Eleven For Your Writer Friend

It’s too late to order online, but go to any brick and mortar bookstore and you will find an entire section on Writing! You can’t go wrong. Include a gift receipt just in case they have that one already. Books About Writing: What they are: Books that will give you real detail or a master class to advance your writing. There are also books on contracts and editors/agents, but those have a shorter shelf life than something on craft. Why they’re great: Similar to magazines, there is information and inspiration, but books will generally have deep knowledge you can refer to over and over again. I often pull out a book from my shelf when I think I’m missing something, can’t… Continue Reading

Gifts for Writers & Readers: 10th Day of Pre-Christmas

on December 22, 2015

12 Days of Pre-Christmas: Gift Ten For Your Writer Friend

Writers get inspiration from everywhere, and everything is research. They also have to keep up with the business side of writing. Consider supporting their efforts and ongoing growth by getting them a magazine subscription to their favorite writing or research publication. Trade or Research Magazine Subscriptions: What they are: Magazines for writers on the craft, the business, and the writing life. Romance Writers Report is part of your annual membership to RWA (Romance Writers of America) Optionally, if they are mystery writers, or have some common theme, you might subscribe them to Forensics Monthly, FBI Weekly, etc. Why they’re great: In addition to the information, they provide an important connection the broader writing community that is imperative for people who… Continue Reading

Gifts for Writers & Readers: 9th Day of Pre-Christmas

on December 22, 2015

12 Days of Pre-Christmas: Gift Nine For Your Writer Friend

Let’s say your writer friend already has a happy mug. Or maybe you found the perfect one for them, but you want to get something else. The perfect desk accessory to go with a mug… The Desk Mug Warmer: What they are: A small warmer that you plug in, with a heating element just big enough to set your mug or teacup on. It keeps the drink warm longer. Why they’re great: It keeps your drink warm longer! How often do you take a couple sips, then get into a scene and before you know it, your drink is cold? No need to worry about that if you have a mug warmer. The other reason why it’s great – it… Continue Reading

Gifts for Writers & Readers: 8th Day of Pre-Christmas

on December 21, 2015

12 Days of Pre-Christmas: Gift Eight For Your Writer Friend

Let’s face it, staring a computer every day can take a toll on your eyes. Or maybe you are a reader, editor, proofer, or reviewer – how are your poor eyes doing? Are you starting to experience a light blur even when you make the text bigger on screen? It might be time for the somewhat dreaded, reading glasses. Funky Reading Glasses or Magnifying Accessories: What they are: A specially treated glass that makes type and other stuff look bigger. Why they’re great: Funky reading glasses are much more fun than a plain pair you pick up at the drugstore. They make you look stylish and feel uber smart. And you can tilt your head to glance over your glances and… Continue Reading